Wednesday 29th March, 2017
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Dealing with cybersex bondage (Part 1)

Dealing with cybersex bondage (Part 1)

When the demand for sexual stim­ulation esca­lates, the conse­quences of sexual promiscuity become increasingly severe. In cybersex, which is more like an encounter of sex without skin, erotic gratification is the desire. Unfortunately, our fragile flesh is hardly satisfied.
 
Those involved in cybersex contact each other through en­tering a variety of group ‘chat rooms’ where the messages of various participants appear on-screen along with other ‘posts’ that have accumulated. These chat rooms have names such as Romance Connection, Gay Room, Naughty Girls, etc.
 
Since the onset of the inter­net, instead of learning to live responsibly as embodied per­sons with sexual identities, cy­berspace beckons us to exper­iment in an artificial world of stimulation, simulation and seduction. The wrongness of yielding to seduction is plain if we heed the words of Jesus:
 
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adul­tery’, But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustful­ly has already committed adul­tery with her in his heart” (Mat­thew 5:21-28).
 
The disembodied sexual ex­change practiced in cyberspace is even closer to physical sex than the activity of the solitary imagination described by Jesus. Our sensory field is more ful­ly occupied and engaged (and at least in some cases) another person is actively involved, even if not bodily present.
 
The essence of freedom, ac­cording to Jesus Christ, is the consecration of the entire self, heart, soul and mind to the love of God (Matthew 22:37, John 8:31-32). The titillating explo­ration of sexual fantasies (in cyberspace or otherwise) fails to honour God. It diverts and dissipates energies meant for other purposes. It negatively affects marriage. The imagina­tion when not disciplined, can become a tyrannical ruler, over­whelming reason and restraint. James explained this.
 
“Each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has con­ceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death” (James 1:14-15).
 
If you have given yourself to pornography or sexual fan­tasies, you have been commit­ting fornication or adultery. If you are returning to this behav­iour over and over again, de­spite your desire to stop, then you are out of control. You are addicted. What you need to do is to first, admit that you are a sex addict. If you have done this, then, congratulations!. You have taken the first step towards recovery.
 
Now, you need to come un­der the authority of the Lord Je­sus Christ. You are involved in a spiritual battle. The scripture has no promise of help in over­coming temptation for those who are not born again. Now, what does it mean to be born again?
 
We understand from the Bible in Genesis 1:26-30 that when God created our first par­ents, Adam and Eve, his inten­tion was to have fellowship with man regularly. Adam and Eve committed sin and sin separat­ed man from God. God was de­termined to reconcile man back to himself. He sent his only be­gotten son Jesus Christ, to come to the world to die for your sins and mine, and reconcile us back to God (John 3:16).
 
When you give birth to a child, there are certain things that you don’t have to teach the child like lying, etc. Naturally, the child will commit certain sins as time goes on if there is absence of godly parentage be­cause he has sinful adamic na­ture. All of us came into this world with sinful adamic na­ture. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). The fact that your father is a Bishop or oc­cupies a high position in church does not make you born again. The day you are born, you are already a sinner. It is when you now understand the difference between good and evil, Jesus and the devil, you then make up your mind and say: “Now, I want to drop my sinful nature. I want to accept Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and saviour so that he begins to direct what I do as I submit to his authority.”
 
When Jesus takes over your life, what it means is that any­thing that Jesus cannot do, you can no longer do them. Jesus cannot steal, lie, cheat, fight, fornicate, bear malice, manip­ulate, deceive, hate, kill, etc. You can no longer do these things because you now carry a spir­it called Jesus. You cannot be operating with a different spir­it. That is the meaning of born again.
 
The birth of a child is not a secret. Everybody around, knows that something has hap­pened. These days, someone says he has been born again. You ask “When and how did it happen?” He says, “I can’t re­member.” This is not possi­ble. The experience is neither a joke nor a secret. When you give your life to Jesus, every­body around you will know that something has happened to your life. You too, will always be eager to tell people what Je­sus has done to your life.
 
That is the meaning of born again. It means you are start­ing life all over again in a dif­ferent way. It means Jesus has conquered the power of sin over your life and you have re­ceived a new grace. “Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature; old things are passed away; behold all things are become new” (2nd Corin­thians 5:17).
 
Brother! Sister! Until you have this experience, you are an enemy of God. People might have known you as Pope, Bish­op, Pastor, Prophet, Deacon, Deaconess, Apostle etc. Irre­spective of any spiritual title you carry, as long as you are liv­ing in sin, you are an enemy of God. You are just a victim of the devil’s branding and packaging ministry in these last days.
 
The devil is desperately us­ing marketing strategies to gather people that will suffer with him in hell fire. One of them is cybersex which many have happily embraced. In our society, cybersex has been fuelled by idleness, and oth­er factors. Though they say an idle mind is the devil’s work­shop, his access to the work­shop highly depends on the owner’s consent. Besides, a cy­bersex captive can never have a successful marriage for obvi­ous reasons. As you read this piece, ask yourself: “Do I want to remain a victim of the dev­il’s marketing strategies and go to hell fire because of sexual im­morality?
 
My dear! Everything that is happening in the physical realm was prepared from the spir­itual realm. By this time yes­terday, God knew that by this time today, you will be read­ing this write-up and receiving this message. Remember! For the people that died last night, God did not take permission from them before it happened. You know you are not better than them.
 
You may want to be free from devil’s troubles and give your life to Jesus. Say this prayer in your heart right now:
 
“Lord Jesus! I come to you as I am. Please, forgive me my sins. Wash me with your pre­cious blood. I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and saviour. Write my name in the book of life. Take over my life. Thank you for conquering the power of sin in my life in Jesus name. Amen!
 
Congratulations! You are now born again. Have a bless­ed marital life in Jesus name. Amen. 

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